For many, Christmas is a time of joy and celebration, but for others, it can be a challenging period of loneliness, grief, or stress.
Maybe there's someone special missing from the table, family relationships are challenging or this time of year feels overwhelming or is a reminder of challenging times.
If someone you know struggles during the festive season, there are meaningful ways you can offer support.
Try these practical tips to help make a positive difference.
Reach out and check in
A simple message or call can mean the world to someone who feels alone or overwhelmed during Christmas. Don’t assume they’re “busy” if you haven’t heard from them—take the initiative to connect.
Tip: Ask open-ended questions like, “How are you feeling about the holidays this year?” to give them space to share.
Invite them to your table or gathering
If it’s appropriate, consider inviting them to spend time with you, whether it’s for Christmas dinner, a festive walk, or a relaxed coffee chat. Even a small gesture of inclusion can help them feel valued.
Tip: Frame the invitation casually to avoid pressure, such as, “We’d love to have you join us if you feel like it.”
Show sensitivity
Not everyone celebrates Christmas. For some, it’s a painful reminder of loss, family conflicts, or personal struggles. Respect their boundaries and let them decide how (or if) they want to participate in holiday traditions.
Tip: Avoid phrases like, “But it’s Christmas!” Instead, say, “I understand this might be a tough time. Is there anything I can do to support you?”
Remember, if they have lost someone special recently or even a while ago, you won't make them more upset by asking about their special person who has passed, or by talking about them at Christmas time (or any time).
'I know Christmas is difficult for you. I'm here if you want to talk', or share some of your memories of their special person.
Offer practical help
The festive season can bring financial or logistical challenges. Offering practical help, such as running errands, offering a lift, or helping them decorate (if they want to), can ease some of the burden.
Tip: Instead of saying, “Let me know if you need help,” offer specific suggestions like, “Can I drop in and help you?”
Listen
Sometimes, the best way to support someone is simply to listen without judgement. Let them share their feelings without trying to “fix” the situation or cheer them up.
Tip: Use active listening skills—nod, maintain eye contact, and respond with empathy. Acknowledge their feelings with phrases like, “That sounds really hard. I’m here for you.”
Offer alternatives to traditional celebrations
If Christmas is too overwhelming, suggest low-key, non-festive activities like a movie night, a nature walk, or cooking a simple meal together. Creating new, pressure-free traditions can help them feel more comfortable.
Tip: Frame the idea as something you’d enjoy doing together, rather than as a way to “fix” their discomfort.
Encourage them to reach out for support
If someone is experiencing deep sadness, anxiety, or withdrawal, encourage them to seek support from a therapist or counsellor. You can gently suggest this by expressing concern and offering to help them find resources.
Tip: Say something like, “I care about you, and I think talking to someone might help. Let me know if you’d like me to help find support.”
Supporting someone who finds the festive season not so festive is about showing empathy, patience, and kindness. Small actions can make a big impact, reminding them they’re not alone in what they’re facing.
By being there for someone in need, you not only make their season a little brighter—you also embody the true spirit of the holidays: compassion and connection.
On behalf of our team at Positive Living Skills, we wish you a relaxed and peaceful holiday season and we hope you get the opportunity to connect with people you care about.
We thank all our supporters and partners for another year of connection and collaboration.
Until next time,
The PLS team
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