In a world that often focuses on external validation, and which also thrives on negative media, it can be easy at times for us to overlook or question our own worth or value.
When we face challenging times or we perceive that we are experiencing criticism from others or from society as a whole, it is easy to doubt ourselves and the value of our contributions.
We all strive for recognition, approval, and praise from others, yet we sometimes forget that the most important validation comes from within ourselves.
Regardless of challenges or criticism, acknowledging ourselves and our own unique value and contributions is key to personal fulfillment and resilience.
Here are some practical ways we can embrace and appreciate our own value:
Recognise your unique impact
No one else has your exact experiences, strengths, or perspective. Your contributions—whether at work, in relationships, or within your community or family—are valuable.
Every person has worth, and it doesn't come from your job title or bank balance. Whether you run a large corporation or provide frontline service, or you provide essential care for others at home, you are valuable and your contribution matters.
Reflect on all the ways you make a difference, even in the smallest ways, as you make your way through your days.
Become aware of your self-talk
We are often our own harshest critics. Pay attention to your inner dialogue and challenge your unsupportive or unkind self-talk. Replace thoughts like “I’m not good enough” or 'I'm just a .................' with affirmations like “I am learning and improving every day,” or 'I complete worthwhile tasks.'
Words have power—make sure the ones you tell yourself are empowering.
Celebrate Small Wins
You don’t need grand achievements to feel accomplished. Every step forward, no matter how small, deserves recognition. Did you complete a task you’ve been procrastinating about? Did you handle a difficult situation with patience? Did you show kindness to someone?
These moments matter. Take a moment each day to appreciate what you’ve done well.
Keep a journal
Writing down your daily efforts, acts of kindness, or personal progress can help shift your focus from what’s missing to what’s present. Each day or at a regular interval you choose, jot down some of the things you are regularly doing that make a difference—whether for yourself or others.
Over time, this practice builds self-awareness and confidence in your abilities.
Reframe perceived criticism as potential growth
Not all criticism is negative; sometimes, it’s an opportunity to learn. Instead of considering criticism as a personal attack, ask yourself: What can I take from this to grow? If the feedback is unfair, remind yourself that you cannot control others' opinions, only your response.
Your value is not determined by someone else’s judgment.
Surround yourself with supportive people
While self-acknowledgment is crucial, having a support system that uplifts and reminds you of your worth is equally important. Seek out people who appreciate you, celebrate your successes, and encourage your growth and don't be afraid to spend less time with those who help you feel judged or compared.
Give yourself grace and compassion
Perfection is an illusion. You will make mistakes, face setbacks, and have moments of doubt. That doesn’t diminish your worth. Be as kind to yourself as you would be to a friend. Acknowledge your efforts, learn from experiences, and move forward with self-compassion.
Your worth is not defined by external validation, money, or lack of criticism. It is inherent. Acknowledge yourself, honour your unique talents, and recognise the impact you make.
When you learn to appreciate your own value, life becomes more fulfilling—not because everything is exactly how you want it, but because you recognise the value and contributions you bring to everything you do.
Until next time,
The PLS team
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